WHO ARE YOU?
VALIDATION
JOY & VITALITY
“I think you’re amazing.”
“You saved us last week.”
“I don’t know what I’d do without you.”
We live for moments like these. These words, spoken with sincerity, cause our hearts to beat a little bit faster, smiles to bloom, good feelings to grow and settle over us until we feel cloaked in them.
This feeling is validation, acknowledging our efforts and praise designed to let us know we were right.
We did well. We were everything we should be and more.
On the outside, validation seems like a good thing. We love when those around us notice what we’re doing and seem pleased by it. But compliments taste like candy, and we can’t get enough. We need more and will do anything to get it. We start changing who we are, acting in ways designed to get attention. We seek out validation more than accomplishment and, in so doing, lose our way completely. We forget the basic truths: We are enough. We are stronger than we think we are. We have everything we need to succeed.
This book will talk about validation and just how dangerous it can be. We’ll address the reasons we seek attention and how these validation-seeking behaviors hurt not only us but affect the way people perceive us.
The good news is we’re also going to talk about how you can break yourself of the validation habit. You’ll master stopping the endless search for validation and instead will embrace Who You Are with no outside influences needed to help you to succeed.
BY RACHEL LEE WHITE LEADING YOU INTO JOY & VITALITY
