as a orphan at the age of ten years old because my parents were victims of murder/suicide event. I had a communication problem that escalated which cost me a lot of unwanted drama. trying to I was trying to find a job and make friends.. I really wanted to be loved, respected and accepted. I decided to leave my homeland’ so I wouldn’t have to miss out on a fair chance being happy. .

Your Desires:
I wanted to be able to make an honest living and find friends who would respect, accept and care about me. and I could start a new fresh life. .

External Struggle:
The thing is I was making low wages on jobs.. That meant I wasn’t able to make an honest living and find friends who would respect, accept and care about me., let alone start a new fresh life. .

Internal Struggle:
To make things worse, I felt terrible because I was not able to live the lifestyle that I was used to.. I felt even worse about the situation because I knew that I deserved to make more and live better.. I felt like trapped in a box..

The Wall:
The problem was that I was suffering from post traumatic syndrome, I went through anxiety and depression and found myself under a doctor’s care.. Which meant suddenly leaving my homeland was a mistake? I was not able to work, I was out of control of my situation. , which I lost my independence to work and take care of myself. I was back to where I started and/or worse; I did not have any family present for real..

Then, as if by chance, something amazing happened…

The Epiphany:
That’s when I that’s when I realized that I needed people and it was okay to ask for help all about myself; my flaws, my needs, desires, my grief, etc.!

It was now crystal clear to me how to really take of myself corresponding to my life issues and problems., because I saw that I had to take responsibility for every aspect of my life even if it was not my fault. .

I also learned that It is not where you live but how you live., you need to live where you can live how you desire. instead.

As a result I I created an organization to reach out to the community to help people increase Communication skills, interpersonal skills and personal development..

After I did that, I started studying, exploring, expanding my knowledge base..

Suddenly, I was helping, counseling others who were having interpersonal relations problems..

That’s when I realized that the secret to I was trying to find a job and make friends. was self discovery and healing_.”.

The Plan:
My plan was to start serving in every capacity as an volunteer with United Way, my church and groups..

So I started contacting organizations and groups to enroll in voluntary groups.. But we didn’t stop there.

We then started having meetings, studies, events and 1:1 consultations and coaching sessions..

After that, we began advertising on social media, internet and word of mouth..

But there was still a problem…

The Conflict:
is finances, right partnerships were lacking.

The Achievement:
We ended up getting so frustrated that we decided to join platforms,groups that would make it really easy to create courses that taught everything we learned about relationships and personal development.

We chose to call it “The Connect Effect”.

We thought if we could create something that would make it possible to offer courses, workshops, and masterminds with right advertisement., we’d be really happy.

After months of joining programs and courses spending thousands of dollars, learning new skill sets, ideas, we created The Connect Effect.

I can now deliver any course, coaching session, webinar or sell a physical product using Click funnels..

We then started to let other Women use The Connect Effect.

As a result of all this we were able to achieve the following:

Kick start a new business for profit as a Speaking, Training and Consulting .

The Transformation:
After creating The Connect Effect, I was not only able to help people and leave a legacy for my family., I’ve also been able to stop feeling like I am in a box. , because we can now multiply and be fruitful in every arena of life..

And in the end, all of this means I’m now able to live with purpose, dignity and peace..



Marketer who is a Published Author, Motivational Speaker, Consultant

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Rachel Lee White

Marketer who is a Published Author, Motivational Speaker, Consultant