Are You A Champion?
“Get on the Winning Team Now, Do Not Wait Another Split Second!”
While reviewing a very sharp book called Letting Go of Anger by Ron Potter-Efron, M.S.W. & Pat Potter-Efron, M.S., I was prompted to write about how some of the anger styles in this reading resonated very well with me. Anger avoidance takes a heavy toll on your personal well-being. I can remember experiencing hiding my anger to the point of possibly suppressing it. Gosh, if I had not avoided my anger in my past years ago in my life; I would have been destructive, abusive, and explosive every day! I traveled a very lonely and depressed road after losing my parents many years ago. I survived by avoiding my anger of all the unwanted drama that I encountered in my youthful days. Just as the author says, ‘anger is part of all human beings.” We are not complete without it. Anger avoiders often get depressed, not only because depression is “anger turned inward” (actually, we think self -hatred is a term for that kind of anger), but mostly because most anger avoiders feel so helpless and hopeless. Without anger, they cannot get what they want or do what they need to do. That is when they get depressed. Anyone would if they were too afraid of their anger to use it well.
I will share more on this topic of anger but let me repeat Charles Rumberg “Feel the feeling. Choose the behavior.”
There is hope and help for the anger avoiders. There are four main ideas to learn and accept:
· Anger is normal
· I Am a Good Person Even When Angry
· I Can Be Angry
· I Can Use My Anger Well
A few days ago, I began writing about the feeling of anger. I would like to add a little more conversation regarding the topic of avoidance anger about the above message. For years, I had frozen feelings and avoided anger, but what is weird is that when I did start expressing my anger everyone who remember the before me; thought it was a crime or terrible. Laughing out loud!
I am very glad that God gave me wisdom to continue expanding, exploring, learning, and growing by reading, listening, and researching and studying to show myself approved.
I also, understand why God gave me the vision to write my book and start the outreach ministries. When the Creator of the Universe transmits a divine image or message to you, it will come to pass in His set time and season. I am not the same woman in July 1987, when God gave me the revelation to write my book, by the way, He chose the title: IT Was Not My Fault. And, also in May 2000 when He gave me the vision of the outreach ministries: The Disciples of the Blood of the Lamb Outreach Ministries, INC.
Someone quoted: Be the change you want to see. So, I have been disciplining my carnal self so that I can be all that the Creator of the Universe desires. I am reminded of Romans Chapter 8; For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. For the earnest expectation of the creature wait for the manifestation of the sons of God. For the creature was made subject to vanity, not willingly, but by reason of him who hath subjected the same in hope, because the creature itself also shall be delivered from bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the children of God. For we know that the whole creation groans and labors with birth pangs together until now. Not only that, but we also who have the first fruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, eagerly waiting for the adoption, the redemption of our body. For we were saved in this hope, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one still hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we eagerly wait for it with perseverance.
Likewise, the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God.
More than Conquerors
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren. Moreover whom He predestined, these He also called; whom He called, these He also justified; and whom He justified, these He also glorified.
What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things? Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written: “For Your sake we are killed all day long; We are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.” Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Happiness and Vibrancy with Rachel